Do I really have to debate this subject from a guy’s perspective? Let’s be honest here, when a woman makes the first move on one of us, the general reaction is a rise in the southern area and a little voice saying,

“Yes please!!!”

The first meeting

Now I speak for myself and a few others when I say this, a confident woman is possibly the biggest turn on out there. I myself am not great at making a first move, I’m slow and often miss the ‘signs’. Sounds like an excuse? Well of course it is. I’m a pussy, like a lot of men out there.

I can tell you this right now any woman that makes conversation with a guy she doesn’t know is pretty much three quarters of the way to sealing the deal. First impressions last and having the confidence to do just that, has already made an impression in our books.

I think both sexes will agree with me on this, making the first step and saying hello is a huge first step and a definite winner. That said there is a difference between throwing yourself out there and throwing it in there. A lot of women I’ve spoken to say,

“I’m seen as a slut, if I make the first move.”

This is only true, if you go up to three guys in one night and make that first step. Have standards, be picky from time to time and please, making the first move does not mean planning your activities for the next week with him after five minutes of chatting… We will abandon ship!

Being forward, without moving backwards

The old days of a man confessing his undying love are still around and for some reason some women believe that if they do the same they are going to chase the guy away. Now this is possibly true if you say it after the first date or first meeting. Truth is some guys are just as sensitive, if not more sensitive, than a lot of women out there. We’ll keep it quiet, but we are a bunch of romantics and those of us that say they aren’t are still in denial. 

We all want to feel appreciated and loved. A girl confessing that she likes a guy she’s been seeing is never a bad thing, unless of course you’ve never met the guy before (be a little more tactful there ladies).

“I’m more scared that he won’t say, ‘I like you’ back to me.”

Rejection is a hard thing for anyone to deal with. Your ego gets bruised and the heart stomped on. This sounds fucking clichéd, but bruises heal and time does heal some things. Otherwise a good bottle of Jagermeister does the trick, just kidding (no not really). The important thing for you to remember is just because the dude does not say it back to you then, doesn’t mean he won’t at a later stage, us guys sometimes just take a little while, we’re slow like that.

White meat vs dark

Now if you’ve just met a guy, are dating one or are married there is an important fact you need to know. Making suggestions is a good thing - don’t; scream, shout and throw a frikkin tantrum because you’re not getting your own way (turn off). Just ss women want to be treated like princesses and sought after, guys like feedback or for a woman who knows exactly what she wants and gets it, to put it bluntly.

I’m not just talking about where you’re going to go on your first date or where your next holiday might be. I’m talking all areas and a big one being in the bedroom. For some reason or another some women seem to think taking charge in the bedroom is a fighting concept… um why? Hello we also want to be dominated (just don’t stick your finger up his ass, without asking permission first). Honestly we like sharing the control in the bedroom. Just as many women want our feedback on the new lounge suite; we too want your ‘feedback’ behind closed doors. Sharing is caring so to speak.

 Let the good times ride

It doesn’t have to stop at the circumstances I’ve discussed above, not at all. This is certainly not a man’s world anymore, it’s our world, shut up I know it sounds very ‘green’ of me to say, but let us be honest, as a good mate of mine said,

“A girl proposing to her boyfriend in a leap year can make for a great story to the grandkids…”

This is all just my opinion, a lot of guys will probably disagree and some women will think what a load of crap. Be honest, though, you want to live life like the fucking ‘rom-coms’ you see on TV or would you prefer to grab the bull by the balls and say,

“Who’s your mommy?”