There is an increasing polarisation in people with regards to sexuality.

More people are exploring so many avenues of sexuality, in so many ways, with great excitement. Sometimes these explorations are fantastic, successful, thrilling and just ‘wow’! Sometimes they’re scary and disastrous.

What often makes the difference is learning, communication and a certain level of awareness. On the other had there is more fear and prejudice about sexuality than ever before. In all this I’m often asked why anybody should come to a sexuality workshop.

Good lovers

There’s a long list of reasons. The first, and one of my pet soapboxes, is that nobody teaches us to be good lovers. It’s one of the most important skills in life, yet nobody teaches us.

So, at a workshop you’ll get open, honest, non-judgmental information.

The non-judgmental aspect is vital, especially when you’d like to explore whatever it is that interests you.

We’re told that so much is wrong, bad, perverse, etc. when in fact it’s actually normal, and more than ok. And to enjoy it without guilt, shame or embarrassment is liberating and fulfilling.

Skill

The next aspect is skill. A great deal of ‘sexual success’ is about how-to.

How your body works; how their body works; where everything is; how to find it; what to with it; what the possibilities are; how to do; what to do with…

Normal

Then there’s the normalization: that we can sit in a safe space, with people just like you and I, and talk about these things, laugh and learn, as easily as if we were talking about anything else. This is so important, because then we feel ok about ourselves, about our sexuality, about what we like, what we’d like to like, to do, to explore…

It’s human and beautiful.

Healing

Then there’s healing.

Sometimes healing from specific incidents and beliefs, changing attitudes, liberating yourself from the guilt, the shame, the inhibitions, the fears, the “why you shouldn’t”s, the lies you were told, the misunderstandings and misinformation you’ve lived with that have kept you trapped.

Growth

There are words such as growth, transformation, transcendence, spirituality, excitement, connection, intimacy and a list that goes on and on.

Play

I’ve often said that sex is one of the ways we as adults play. It’s meant to be fun.

It’s a game where you don’t need toys, unless you’d like to include those, but they’re extras rather than necessities. You can make the rules up as you go along, and re-create them all the time.

The game can be different every day, literally for the rest of your life. Come learn, come explore, come and step into the joy, the celebration of the beauty, the power, the pleasure you are.